It’s all in the Bag

I got off work last Thursday at 2:30 pm and proceeded to having a decadent (mind you long overdue) shopping spree:

-patent leather red cork wedges, Calvin Klein
-red lipstick and lip gloss, Nars. I’ve been feeling like a ball of fire lately. Restless to be accurate. I’m hoping this releases some of that pent up energy.
-The Happiness Project: so excited about reading Rubin’s book. Just started and it’s got the wheels turning in my brain already 😛
-yellow ruffled tube top, American Eagle. I almost bought this online in salmon which would have been a bad idea. That color is simply hideous In person. Best part: no bra required.
-AAA batteries, Energizer. Well really a purchase I made Friday but part of my “retail therapy”. I recently revived my long lost voice recorder from med school 2 days ago after I recommitted myself to a life of writing…… I’m planning to make this gadget my sidekick as I prepare articles for my website I’m launching July 2013. Look out for it ;-).

Ok so I did a little more than browse and have spent a ton over my budget this month….. :-). But the returns will be tremendous I anticipate as I have invested in so many domains in my life that make Me Dr Nutsnboltz

Did I mention the best addition to my life recently? Will comment on that later ;-).

Xoxo

DNB

7 senses.

7 senses

Beauty is short-lived.

Class shallow.

Intellect deceiving.

Emotions unpredictable….

Passion lasts forever.

 

You give me passion without pain,

without the guilt,

with words.

The sixth sense.

Silence the seventh.

You touch my heart with your words,

my hand with your lips,

and make me yours with your eyes.

 

What about your eyes draws me in so, to the point that I shut mine?

What if I told you that it only took two arms and one night to say what my ears needed to hear?

Without touching me, you make me yours.

Continue speaking my inner language. Half spoken, half unspoken.

 

DNB

Hump Day

–I’m not sure why, but feeling super restless emotionally… working out, watching The Breakup, 2 dinners, and an hour of cleaning have not really settled it either. I’m guessing this is hormonal? In which case hopefully tomorrow will be better.

 

The Daughtry station on PANDORA will have to do for the interim time…

 

“Let Me Go”
-3 Doors Down

One more kiss could be the best thing
But one more lie could be the worst
And all these thoughts are never resting
And you’re not something I deserve

In my head there’s only you now
This world falls on me
In this world there’s real and make believe
And this seems real to me

[Chorus]
You love me but you don’t know who I am
I’m torn between this life I lead and where I stand
And you love me but you don’t know who I am
So let me go
Let me go

I dream ahead to what I hope for
And I turn my back on loving you
How can this love be a good thing
When I know what I’m goin through

In my head there’s only you now
This world falls on me
In this world there’s real and make believe
And this seems real to me

[Chorus]
You love me but you don’t know who I am
I’m torn between this life I lead and where I stand
You love me but you don’t know who I am
So let me go
Just Let me go…
Let me go

DNB

Me in May

On a light private practice surgery rotation this month my only objectives are 2: operate till my intrinsic hand muscles get buff and live/love my life. Here are some simple ways I intend on doing just that:

1. Be aggressive, MAYbe aggressive: get into the OR at all costs. As it turns out, attendings in private practice love working with residents from academic institutions most of the time. They tend to be excellent teachers as well which makes for a very pleasant operative experience, if you ask me. The perfect soil for a young intern.

2. Read the following:

   

   Corner Office: 5 habits of Highly Effective CEOs. All future leaders’ guide to leadership in 21st century America

   

   The ICU Book by Marino. Less pleasurable, but equally necessary. Part of a master preparation for 2nd year.

   

   Get my workout on. Two things that turn this Georgia girl on are fitness and…..

   

   ….Fooooooood!! Which brings me to another goal….

3. Self control please! Stress of residency has led me to lose all self control with respects to food…. as well as other things. Trying to stay out of trouble this month 🙂
   

4. Paint a little bit. Art takes the edge from life for some reason. The best part is it really doesn’t matter if I’m good at it

5. Friends are priceless. Period. Make them count.

Oh, and I decided that I am happily an introvert. I used to be extroverted but have grown to spend so much time in my head recently that I truthfully have been lying to myself calling myself an extrovert.

More later as usual.

DNB

10 Things Your Commencement Speaker Won’t Tell You

An Essay By CHARLES WHEELAN taken from the Wall street journal (April 30, 2012)

Getty ImagesLook to your left and then to your right. Is that pretty girl Phi Beta Kappa? Marry her.

Class of 2012,

I became sick of commencement speeches at about your age. My first job out of college was writing speeches for the governor of Maine. Every spring, I would offer extraordinary tidbits of wisdom to 22-year-olds—which was quite a feat given that I was 23 at the time. In the decades since, I’ve spent most of my career teaching economics and public policy. In particular, I’ve studied happiness and well-being, about which we now know a great deal. And I’ve found that the saccharine and over-optimistic words of the typical commencement address hold few of the lessons young people really need to hear about what lies ahead. Here, then, is what I wish someone had told the Class of 1988:

1. Your time in fraternity basements was well spent.

The same goes for the time you spent playing intramural sports, working on the school newspaper or just hanging with friends. Research tells us that one of the most important causal factors associated with happiness and well-being is your meaningful connections with other human beings. Look around today. Certainly one benchmark of your postgraduation success should be how many of these people are still your close friends in 10 or 20 years.

Charles Wheelan checks in on Mean Street with some advice for the Class of 2012: pay very close attention, because there are key things you need to know that you won’t learn by simply donning a cap and gown. Photo: AP.

2. Some of your worst days lie ahead. Graduation is a happy day. But my job is to tell you that if you are going to do anything worthwhile, you will face periods of grinding self-doubt and failure. Be prepared to work through them. I’ll spare you my personal details, other than to say that one year after college graduation I had no job, less than $500 in assets, and I was living with an elderly retired couple. The only difference between when I graduated and today is that now no one can afford to retire.

3. Don’t make the world worse. I know that I’m supposed to tell you to aspire to great things. But I’m going to lower the bar here: Just don’t use your prodigious talents to mess things up. Too many smart people are doing that already. And if you really want to cause social mayhem, it helps to have an Ivy League degree. You are smart and motivated and creative. Everyone will tell you that you can change the world. They are right, but remember that “changing the world” also can include things like skirting financial regulations and selling unhealthy foods to increasingly obese children. I am not asking you to cure cancer. I am just asking you not to spread it.

4. Marry someone smarter than you are. When I was getting a Ph.D., my wife Leah had a steady income. When she wanted to start a software company, I had a job with health benefits. (To clarify, having a “spouse with benefits” is different from having a “friend with benefits.”) You will do better in life if you have a second economic oar in the water. I also want to alert you to the fact that commencement is like shooting smart fish in a barrel. The Phi Beta Kappa members will have pink-and-blue ribbons on their gowns. The summa cum laude graduates have their names printed in the program. Seize the opportunity!

5. Help stop the Little League arms race. Kids’ sports are becoming ridiculously structured and competitive. What happened to playing baseball because it’s fun? We are systematically creating races out of things that ought to be a journey. We know that success isn’t about simply running faster than everyone else in some predetermined direction. Yet the message we are sending from birth is that if you don’t make the traveling soccer team or get into the “right” school, then you will somehow finish life with fewer points than everyone else. That’s not right. You’ll never read the following obituary: “Bob Smith died yesterday at the age of 74. He finished life in 186th place.”

6. Read obituaries. They are just like biographies, only shorter. They remind us that interesting, successful people rarely lead orderly, linear lives.

7. Your parents don’t want what is best for you. They want what is good for you, which isn’t always the same thing. There is a natural instinct to protect our children from risk and discomfort, and therefore to urge safe choices. Theodore Roosevelt—soldier, explorer, president—once remarked, “It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.” Great quote, but I am willing to bet that Teddy’s mother wanted him to be a doctor or a lawyer.

8. Don’t model your life after a circus animal. Performing animals do tricks because their trainers throw them peanuts or small fish for doing so. You should aspire to do better. You will be a friend, a parent, a coach, an employee—and so on. But only in your job will you be explicitly evaluated and rewarded for your performance. Don’t let your life decisions be distorted by the fact that your boss is the only one tossing you peanuts. If you leave a work task undone in order to meet a friend for dinner, then you are “shirking” your work. But it’s also true that if you cancel dinner to finish your work, then you are shirking your friendship. That’s just not how we usually think of it.

9. It’s all borrowed time. You shouldn’t take anything for granted, not even tomorrow. I offer you the “hit by a bus” rule. Would I regret spending my life this way if I were to get hit by a bus next week or next year? And the important corollary: Does this path lead to a life I will be happy with and proud of in 10 or 20 years if I don’t get hit by a bus.

10. Don’t try to be great. Being great involves luck and other circumstances beyond your control. The less you think about being great, the more likely it is to happen. And if it doesn’t, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being solid.

Good luck and congratulations.

— Adapted from “10½ Things No Commencement Speaker Has Ever Said,” by Charles Wheelan. To be published May 7 by W.W. Norton & Co.

A version of this article appeared April 28, 2012, on page C3 in some U.S. editions of The Wall Street Journal, with the headline: 10 Things Your Commencement Speaker Won’t Tell You.

Solid Dresses by Julian Chang at eDressMe

Solid Dresses by Julian Chang at eDressMe.

the NOmad

I’m in the habit of making to-d0-lists that I know won’t get done.

I place myself in uncomfortable situations often,

         and chase rainbows blindly off cliffs.

I repeat myself constantly…

Like a robot, only expecting different results each time.

The definition of insanity.

 

My life is not and never has been my own.

As if I’m the last picked player on the corner of a boardgame

          with no control over my piece.

 

No Peace.

 

I’m restless as is my spirit constantly.

My thoughts fleeting.

My emotions fluctulent.

I struggle and want stability, satisfaction, joy, contentment.

None of which I’ve known for some time now.

 

So I bob for Good Apples and retrieve these Nectarines daily ….

…..none of which surprisingly I have an appetite for any longer.

Perhaps it’s time I re-route yet again.

                                                            -NNB

Walking backwards

Forgotten Language

Once I spoke the language of the flowers,
Once I understood each word the caterpillar said,
Once I smiled in secret at the gossip of the starlings,
And shared a conversation with the housefly
in my bed.
Once I heard and answered all the questions
of the crickets,
And joined the crying of each falling dying
flake of snow,
Once I spoke the language of the flowers… .
How did it go?
How did it go?

                                            -by Shel Silverstein

From the land of bad apples,

NNB

Baltimore Part Of Human Trafficking Problem, Experts Say – Baltimore, Maryland News Story – WBAL Baltimore

Baltimore Part Of Human Trafficking Problem, Experts Say – Baltimore, Maryland News Story – WBAL Baltimore.

The write thing to do

…is to write it down apparently. Studies increasingly show that people who write down goals, dreams, and aspirations (both long term and short term are more likely to achieve them). I’m assuming this applies to 2012 new years resolutions too? shoulder shrug

1. Spend more 1:1 time praying and reflecting. I’d love to get to know God more. I think doing this will enable me to better appreciate his omnipotence and consequentially allow me to more effortlessly have faith
2. Live an active lifestyle: currently this is being done through my LAF membership 6 times a week. Did i mention the sauna?
3. Expand my cooking skill set. A never ending goal 🙂 . Interestingly enough, SAHMs are the BEST resources for this. They spend a lot of time reflecting about this topic in addition to organization of home life, etc.
4. Organize my life. Need I say more.
5. Make some meaningful steps in my career: MPH vs MPP….. transplant surgery vs vascular surgery vs endocrine.
6. Stay in better touch with family using a variety of creative techniques. I have 3 brothers, an older half sister, a grandma, and a dad that live in the US with me. They all have different personalities and interests. Therein lie different opportunities for me to connect with them
7. Resume self expression. One of the most challenging aspects of surgery residency is finding ways to continually express yourself on a daily basis. For me this usually takes place through my hair, clothing, and jewelry. But between the world of scrubs and the strict rules of the OR, it seems that this has gotten chopped out of my life… giving me little incentive to shop for myself anymore. I’d effectively like to get my sexy back :-). And now’s as good a time as any to do it!
8. Develop a regimen for surgical self education on a daily or at least weekly basis.

More later on how exactly I plan on achieving these things.

NNB